A healthy relationship can be a lifelong partnership of mutual support and companionship, as well as a source of joy. But how can you tell if you’ve found “the one?” Registered psychotherapist Natacha Duke offers some telltale signs that you’re in it for the long haul.

You’re on the same team

In a real relationship, both partners should be able to look at each other and feel like they’re on the same side of the field, working together toward common goals. This sense of unity isn’t always easy to achieve, and it may take time for both of you to work out differences, but once you get there, the bond will be solid.

You’re on the same page about core values and priorities

Every person has certain things that are extremely important to them, whether it’s family, religion, career, or a passion project. Those values are often the driving force behind many of our decisions and actions, so it makes sense that when you’re dating someone, those issues would be at the forefront of your mind. When you’re in the right relationship, however, those things become a shared priority and are given equal weight with other aspects of your life.

You’re not afraid of (respectful) disagreement

Everyone has different ways of communicating, and some people prefer to talk things out quietly while others may want to raise their voices and passionately disagree with each other. In either case, you’ll be comfortable expressing your own opinions and concerns in a loving and respectful manner. Your partner will also be open to hearing your points of view, even if they happen to disagree with you.

You admire each other’s qualities

In the right relationship, it can be a wonderful feeling to know that you have a partner who sees your best qualities and appreciates them. They’ll encourage you to be the best version of yourself and support your achievements, and they’ll give you fuel to keep striving for more in your life.

You can’t wait to come home to them

The most obvious sign that you’re in a good relationship is that you can’t wait to get back to your partner at the end of the day. Whether it’s sharing a meal, going for a walk, or simply chatting on the phone, spending time with your partner is something you look forward to. In fact, a growing body of research suggests that having close relationships can add years to your lifespan! So it’s definitely worth putting in the effort to create and nurture a happy, fulfilling relationship.